A formula for confidence making use of hypnotherapy.
As a modern society, we are becoming more and more isolated as we interact ever more through personal computers and less and less via personal communications. It is all too easy for people to become isolated from society and as a hypnotherapist I am seeing a lot more evidence of this.
This increase in the use of computers for communicating with friends has a cost, in particular we’re not practicing our verbal communication skills and worse still some of our youngsters are barely learning them at all. Apps like FaceTime and Skype are better as at least we are seeing some of the visual cues, but you just can’t beat a chat over a cup tea or coffee to hone your skills.
How could this lack of social skills affect us now and in the future? People without these skills can feel isolated and is not prepared to meet the needs of a social circumstance; things like get togethers, group meetings and weddings are a real challenge.
We can’t lay all the blame on technology however, these new pressures are making the problem far worse and it just isn’t getting any better.
A large proportion of hypnotherapy clients I see want additional self confidence in conditions where they may become the main attraction. Clients are regularly worried that they might look silly and humiliate themselves when in front of people and be judged negatively. Mainly, their solution is to stay away from the limelight and thereby make certain that they don’t end up being the centre of attention.
Hypnosis is very effective at solving this type of situation. Having said that, helping people to feel more self-assured for a little bit just provides a temporary solution. That is because it only solves the situation in the short term and would be like putting a plaster on a shattered leg. You must do something about the reason that you have the problem in the first place.
It’s all very well to find fault with our current society, but in most instances a lack of self-confidence has its origins in past conditioning from critical parents or partners, bullying or being ridiculed in class. By coping with these past events we could prepare the client for an effective change in the way they actually feel. As soon as the power of these old events has been completely removed the client is ready for a boost in self-confidence. So once done, we are able to move on to the next thing.
As good as a hypnotic approach is, it has its boundaries.
The next task is to help the individual to build more social relationships to allow them to build their self confidence naturally, which helps them feel more confident in future social scenarios. As the person generates these new social contacts, the hypnotherapist can assist them to feel a lot more assured in those scenarios. It might just be signing up for a book club or going to a restaurant with friends – the type of social gathering does not matter as long as there is an interaction with real men and women. When the individual enters the social circumstance, whatever it is, they need to be sociable and cheerful.
During this process, we will be helping the client to feel assured and comfortable. This allows them to little by little build their confidence on the solid fundamentals that we have already prepared. As a result the client builds the permanent transformation that they came to see the hypnotherapist for.
Sally Moore, a professional hypnotherapist, from Sally Moore Hypnotherapy has been helping people in and around Woodhall Spa & Lincoln, Lincolnshire recover their confidence for many years.
